Passion and Fixation

In many spiritual traditions, pride is seen as a fundamental issue where individuals try to address a lack of meaning and connection by creating an idealized image of themselves. This inflated self-perception is sustained by a constant need for admiration and love from others. They depend on being seen as indispensable, unaware that this reliance on external validation fosters their own dependency. For Type 2s, pride leads them to focus on others happiness while neglecting their own needs. As children, they often found value in bringing joy to their families, adopting the role of easing pain or lifting spirits. Although this role brought them recognition, it was not genuine appreciation but a defense against feelings of worthlessness or being used. In adult relationships, pride drives a compulsion to gain approval by fulfilling others needs. They maintain an image of abundance and self-sufficiency, avoiding vulnerability by appearing endlessly capable and giving. This appearance masks a deeper need for validation and the fear of being abandoned.

The fixation of Type 2 revolves around presenting themselves as self-sufficient and abundant, masking any sense of personal need or dependence. They cultivate an image of being endlessly giving and resourceful, someone who can provide for others without requiring anything in return. This false sense of abundance becomes their primary way of interacting with others, as they believe it ensures their value and secures their place in relationships. From an early age, Type 2 individuals often adopted the role of bringing joy or alleviating distress within their family. This role became a way to gain visibility and worth, even though it did not stem from genuine recognition. Over time, this defensive mechanism hardened into a fixation, compelling them to focus on others needs while ignoring their own. They equate their worth with their ability to give, reinforcing the belief that their happiness lies in making others happy. In relationships, this fixation manifests as an inability to step back from the role of caretaker or provider. They feel compelled to meet others expectations and fulfill their desires, often without considering whether these efforts align with their own needs or values. This dynamic is further reinforced by their need to maintain the appearance of being indispensable and irreplaceable, ensuring that they remain central and valued in others lives. This fixation is evident in their outward demeanor, characterized by warmth, adaptability, and a noticeable readiness to connect. Their interactions are often marked by a charm that seeks to draw others in, yet this interpersonal style stems from a deep need to maintain the illusion of self-sufficiency and abundance, masking their vulnerability and unacknowledged needs.

Traits

Pride manifests as an exaggerated sense of self-worth and attractiveness, often accompanied by behaviors such as demanding privileges, boasting, and seeking attention. Beyond these overt expressions, it also involves psychological aspects, such as the belief in one’s indispensability. This mindset centers around being adored and validated by others. However, pride creates a paradox, as the individual becomes dependent on others recognition to sustain their grandiose self-image. Ultimately, pride drives a relentless need to assert personal significance and maintain a sense of superiority.

The love need of Type 2 individuals is deeply intertwined with their sense of pride, often obscured by an outward display of independence. This need originates from early experiences of emotional deprivation, where personal value was tied to external affirmation. They seek love and intimacy as a way to validate their worth, often blurring the line between their happiness and others satisfaction. This results in possessiveness and a tendency to over-involve themselves in relationships. Their intense need for connection leads to behaviors that combine seductiveness and dependency.

Hedonism in Type 2 reflects their substitution of love with pleasure, as they equate being loved with being indulged. Their pursuit of pleasure manifests in a need for special treatment and attention, resembling a spoiled child. When their desires are unmet, they may exhibit frustration and a low tolerance for routine or discipline. This pursuit supports a cheerful and animated outward persona, masking deeper dissatisfaction. Their hedonistic tendencies drive a focus on novelty and stimulation, reinforcing an aversion to responsibility and limitations.

Type 2 individuals emphasize attractiveness as a means to fulfill their need for love and affirmation. Their seductive traits include warmth, affection, and emotional support, often masking insecurity. However, their generosity can be superficial, driven by a giving to get motive rather than genuine altruism. Flattery is selectively used as a tool to captivate those deemed worthy of attention. Erotic appeal plays a significant role in their seduction, serving as a strategy to reinforce their sense of personal significance and pride.

Assertiveness in Type 2 arises from their pride and is characterized by daring and willful behaviors to achieve their desires. Unlike harsher forms of dominance, their assertiveness is softened by charm and an adventurous vitality. This combines tenderness with pugnacity, creating a dynamic, bold personality. Their drive to have their way often leads to emotional displays or dramatic reactions. This assertiveness reflects their deep need for control and validation, driven by their self-image and uninhibited desire for recognition.